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what is cyber bullying cyber bullying is
any cyber communication or publication
posted or sent by one young person to
another it may involve instant messaging
email bashing websites diary or online
profile sites interactive games handheld
devices cell phone or any interactive
device that's invented it's intended to
frighten embarrass harass or otherwise
target another kid what's the profile of
a typical cyberbullying victim anyone
between the ages of 9 and 14 are typical
cyber bullying victims 90% of the middle
school students we polled admitted
having their feelings hurt online and
only 15 percent of the parents we polled
even knew about cyber bullying at all
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there are four types of cyber bullies
the vengeful angel the power-hungry
cyber bully which includes the subsets
Revenge of the Nerds the Mean Girls
cyber bully and the inadvertent cyber
bully cyber bullying is you being
harassed constantly online by one or
more people
talking about what you look like how
they don't like it and how ugly one
person is they'll discriminate the race
or religion how they look stuff like
that little things that really sink deep
into the skin
when I was 12 years old I was in sixth
grade a boy at my school started pulling
me in school every day saying how stupid
I was and how ugly it was she would copy
paste my screen name
you know did you see my thumb once I was
wearing and then forward that below of
my streak to that person
where is this coming from Lincoln no
ideally I'd was known I was like a
little heavier than other people but I
never thought you know what use it
against me and then he finally got my
screen name and he started talking to me
online and he was saying all these mean
things to me the same things they
wouldn't school but then on the computer
he didn't have that same face so he
started being even more me everything
that I enjoyed and everything I did
outside of soccer that art was on my
computer that was the most difficult
part because having wireless at my house
and having wireless at school I was
surrounded by the internet all the time
she had asked me 24/7 it took me to the
point where I would go into my own zone
hysterically like crying so upset about
it and she didn't even know what to do
because this had never happened to me
before I am missing school a lot because
I had some agates that was a lot of it
psychologically I did
it was my way putting a barrier between
school at this polling and myself so I
went back to this kid and I started
talking to him online and saying I can't
I can't accept this from you and all
that did was making him even more angry
and make me a target my mom actually had
to take control of it and she actually
called the police because I kept getting
these harassing phone calls and they
actually traced it back to one of my
best friend's older brothers was playing
a prank on me and they just thought it
was a joke and all this kid really
wanted was a reaction out of me so
finally my dad went on the internet and
on my screen name he said my daughter
isn't any of the things that you've said
you can't treat her like this
if you do then I will notify the
authorities so this kid got scared and
you stopped talking to me they won't
think they want to do is pick on me and
get a reaction so it looks like it's my
fault
and I knew this is a one-time not to
fight back stop what you're doing
because you're gonna want to write back
something just as me is something just
as malicious in that way you're gonna be
just as guilty as a person bawling yeah
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stop block and tell make sure that if
you get an offensive message you don't
do anything to make it worse you block
the person and that your children know
that they can come to you and you will
help them think before you click
are you sending your message to the
right person is it possible that it's
going to be misinterpreted make sure you
put a JK or a smiling next to what
you're saying so the person who gets it
knows that you're just kidding or joking
around respect others if you teach them
good manners online we call it
netiquette it's less likely they're
going to get into trouble keep your
private information private the more
information that's out there about your
child the easier it is for someone to
target them Google your child and Google
yourself see what comes up hopefully
nothing take five put down the mouse and
walk away from the computer that way no
one will get hurt
we ask them to choose the one thing that
would help them relax and feel better
about themselves and to spend five
minutes doing it if something upsets
them in real life or online all of us
make better decisions through that time
to think about it
the first thing I would do just block
just ignore the person and if it
persists block the person on line so
they can't contact you and tell an adult
teens my age kids we don't really tell
our parents that much you know so when
it's online and somebody keeps bugging
bugging you even threatening you
threatening to hurt you that's when you
definitely should just abandon all pride
of being a teenager I think just tell
your parents or anybody don't believe
what other people say because if you
succumb to it and you give in they want
tell someone know tell a good friend if
you can't tell your parent or if you're
embarrassed about it just say something
I think people need to learn that people
do have feelings especially if you're
someone who's emotional they would get
very upset knowing that you know maybe
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it's not good to people because not only
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to be bullied in school is one thing but
to have it taken home with you and be
bullied online and bullied wherever you
are it has time to sink in and it hurts
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look at the underlying problem is a
replaced report bullying or
cyberbullying at the school can that be
done anonymously is there a peer
counseling group that can handle these
matters what about parents and school
administrators do they ignore bullying
when occurs or do they take it seriously
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children have committed suicide after
having been cyberbullied
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and Japan one child killed another after
cyberbullying incident take it seriously
if you need more information about
cyberbullying you can reach out to us at
Wired safety org and our new website
dedicated just to cyberbullying stop
cyberbullying org we have a cyber
bullying help group you file a report
and one of our specially trained
volunteers will get back to you within
24 hours to help you with your case and
copy any evidence that you need to
handle the matter
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